Monthly Archives: August 2019
It’s not easy to do sometimes. It’s not easy to a lot of the time! But it is necessary to do If you want to continue in life. Sure you can be negative and live but what kind of life is that?!
I don’t like living darkly. Living darkly can lead me to think and do all kinds of things that will hurt me and others around me. I choose to look for the positive spin on things. That doesn’t mean that I don’t see the negative, I see it. I look for something out of it can help me.
A great example is my Bells Palsy! It sucked to have it! I hated having it! Now I take that experience and travel across the country and share it with others in a presentation format and get paid for it!! Now I’m helping others that might be going through it or something similar. I found the positive.
I invite you all to try.
I have changed and the change feels good
The last 4 years have been very interesting for me. I am using the word Interesting instead of a stronger language word. It has changed me . I’ve lost a bunch of important people and animals in my life. My career had some gigantic lows and now some amazing highs. My health went bad and now I’m coming out of that. In other words life happened and it profoundly affected me.
I also turned 50 this year and that has forced me to take a good look at my life and see where I am. So I am changed.
Some People are having a hard time with me being changed. Other folks haven’t even noticed. But everyone is finding out through my actions and words. Things that were okay for me before aren’t so now. I used to let certain things slide, no anymore. I would settle!! No more of that. I know I can survive just about anything that is put in front of me. There is comfort in that. I don’t have to accept the way I can be treated. I can accept the person for who they are but I don’t have to let them treat me however they feel.
I like the newer, much improved me. I’m okay with the choices that I am making for me! I invite everyone to do the same. It feels great!!
Photo by Doug Frerichs
I have been asking myself this question for the last few years after having exchanges with people in my life. And my answer is leaning towards….no!
It’s amazing how self centered we have become as a society. We can probably list 10 reasons why we are here and in this state, but to me I’m beyond that. It’s amazing to me.
One of my theories based on my experiences is that people are desperately wanting to be seen and heard and valued. Its almost at all costs with no shame. It’s all about being hurt or feeling neglected or being lonely. I’ve had so many disagreements where the fight becomes about the way the fight is going and the reason for the fight gets smaller and smaller. I’ve been in arguments where it boils down to miscommunication or misunderstanding and that person needs to let you know how hurt they are. Even if it was their reason you are in the fight in the first place.
Many times I’m on the short end of the stick of people looking out for me or checking on me. I went through a rough medical issue and maybe 5 people checked on me. FIVE. Now that I’m feeling better, people are trying to resume my role as caretaker and listener and helper. But I don’t want the role anymore, so I changed the rules because I’m a changed person. Those folks don’t seem to understand. And some of them are mad at me and making it all about them. Hmmm.
I feel you get what you give. I also know that you teach people how to treat you. I am a participant in this. Can’t blame it all on other people. I miss the “village” mentality where we all look out for each other and that includes our feelings.
I have to end this to say that i do have a few people who are thoughtful and do care about my feelings. Not very many but a few. I think it’s now a byproduct of everything. We need to connect and be present with each other. I will hold out hope