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Changing The Rules With Those Close To You

Over the last 10 years I have changed the ules with those close to me, So what does that mean?

Well I let people treat me a certain way for a period of time. Then I woke up  (usually thru self discovery or with help of a professional) and decided it was not okay anymore and changed MY behavior. THEN I didn’t accept the ways they continued to treat me.

I had to realized that it all begins and ends with ME. I can’t change THIER ways of doing things, but I could change my reactions.

I got tired of feeling bad or that I always got “the short end of the stick.” IN some cases you can talk with the people you are dealing with and sometimes change and growth can happen together. Of course that is usually the desired outcome you want! But many times that is not the reality. You have to find a way to let go of what THEY are doing and be strong and move forward and be able to defend yourself.

It’s oaky to say NO. It’s okay to simply say when something doesn’t work for you. It’s okay.

I quietly started changed the rules with certain people. I don’t even know if THEY have noticed. I havent done it in a mean way. When someone who does NOTHING for me asks for my help with something, I say NO if I  feel like it. AND don’t feel bad. If you talk to me a certain way, I choose how I want to respond and there are times I might not respond. I’m much happier these days.

I don’t let people put thier “stuff” on me! And you shouldn’t either. I try to walk through the world with care and compassion and non judgement. I stay in my lane and try to be nice to everyone. I also believe in being treated a certain way that is respectful to me! I encourage you all to do the same!

 
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Posted by on June 13, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

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What Does Being Proud Mean

 

June is Gay Pride Month. February is Black History Month. March 17th is St Patricks Day. May 5th is Cinco De Mayo. The foruth Thursday of November is Thanksgiving. It has got me thinking about these specialized moments. These are set aside for specifice groups or events that happened. Each has their celebrators as well as their detractors. Blacks joke that we get the shortest month of the year. Some straight people are pissed there isn’t a pride parade for them. Some of the beginnings of theses days may have some controversy. It begs the question, do these moments help or hurt us?

Many people forget or don’t know some of these pride moments were born out of struggle and fight. Times to find their place in the world and be acounted for. They can be moments for awareness and education. It is no pain olympiics. We are in a great time. Some of the “history” is not accurate and not that’s changing. We are able to tell the correct history and right wrongs from the past!

There is room for everyone to be who they are. No one needs to feels threatned by any of these. We should feel proud of who we are and where we come from. We should feel proud of our rich heritages. It’s okay to look back and celebrate how far we’ve come. In the end, my hope is that we learn from the past and not repeat or continue things that don’t help us.

 
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Posted by on June 8, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

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